So its been forever since I've been single...and now that I am I don't even know what to do. Being home is the last place where I want to be single, not that there are no eligible dudes (em...we'll get back to dat) but its always SOMETHING.
I mean first, we live in a chavinistic (spelling?) society where the man is always right, and that does not sit well with me. I mean I found myself getting in some ridiculous arguments at work over crzy sexist comments. and 2) everyone finds it odd when ur single. Like I remember when my uncle asked me, and I told him I didn't have a BF, he went on about how I was lying and trying to cover something up, blah, blah, blah.
3) There is no dating in this country, well for some there is, but for me, I don't know how to explain to my padre that I am having dinner with a guy, or a guy is coming to pick me up, bottomline is they don't want to know that men and women date, they just want to believe that they meet and discuss their wedding plans. So I'll now have to start sneaking around, which after a while just gets old and annoying and stressful.
4) There is no dating, because once you're seen talking to Guy A. you are automatically expected to see that relationship to the altar, or else u switching from A to B, makes u seem loose? (such bullshit).
Anyways how this unneccessary wahala just makes me not want to even talk or meet anyone, the whole thing is just tricky.
Speaking of dating..how do u even begin? I mean with so many desperate chicks out here (these gurls are on dat marriage grind HARDDDD boiiii!!!) how do u stand out as a normal "am- not-thinking- about- marriage -but -I -kinda- have- to- since -I -live -with- my- parents" gurl, better yet, whats your motivation to date when most (not all) of this dudes are probably talkin to someone else. I once heard of this gurl that was dating this guy for like a year, and then later found out he had a wife and 2kids in england...that shyt freaked me out!! (that and many other crzy dating stories).
To be honest with u, the whole thing is just stressful..an arranged marriage when am 30 is beginning to look good right about now ;)
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
Thursday, January 15, 2009
BACK TO BL.......................OG
So its been like 5months since I have been in Nigeria and sadly to say, I have become one of “those” Nigerians. I didn’t even know I was doing it, it took my lil sis asking why am always so “negative” for me to realize that all this “polluted” air has gotten into me. O.M.G I have become a bitchy NIGERIA.
I guess somewhere between my job and NYSC I sold my happy soul to the devil, em….actually NYSC stole my soul, lol. Anyways I will gist about NYSC when I have the energy to write a short story.
Nigeria is a jungle, you can’t be civilized and get anything done. A friend advised me once to just relax and let it get to me, you know, let all the bullshit in so that one day I can just erupt like a volcano and RELEASE EVERYTHING. Which I am still working on, I think my bullshit tank is not yet full so I still have a couple of days, maybe weeks or month left before I finally ERUPT. I don’t understand why people are so INCOMPTENT, I mean for instance take my situation with my driver. He’s a driver, my driver he has to drive me places, yet when I say “nedu take me to silverbird” he actually has the audacity to tell me DAT IT WILL BE TOO STRESSFUL ON HIM since he’s tired, wat f**king sense does dat make, n*gga do I CARE? UR JOB IS TOOOOO DRIVE. After he and da rest of this incompetents will tell u dat “oh there is no money, things are hard, our leaders are corrupt, blah, blah, blah. But……………BREAKIN NEWS: “most Nigerians DON’T WANT TO WORK!!!. They rather go to church and ask God for money to POUR on them.
Even at work, some of my co-workers just sit there and don’t do jack, unless da boss is coming, like when I say they don’t do jack, I mean THEY DON’T DO JACK, they rather sit around and engage in Nigeria’s favorite pastime: GOSSIP.
Anyways, lemme stop before I raise my blood temperature thinking about dat driver.
So xmas ’08 should have been themed “when will I get married”
To be Cont…..
I guess somewhere between my job and NYSC I sold my happy soul to the devil, em….actually NYSC stole my soul, lol. Anyways I will gist about NYSC when I have the energy to write a short story.
Nigeria is a jungle, you can’t be civilized and get anything done. A friend advised me once to just relax and let it get to me, you know, let all the bullshit in so that one day I can just erupt like a volcano and RELEASE EVERYTHING. Which I am still working on, I think my bullshit tank is not yet full so I still have a couple of days, maybe weeks or month left before I finally ERUPT. I don’t understand why people are so INCOMPTENT, I mean for instance take my situation with my driver. He’s a driver, my driver he has to drive me places, yet when I say “nedu take me to silverbird” he actually has the audacity to tell me DAT IT WILL BE TOO STRESSFUL ON HIM since he’s tired, wat f**king sense does dat make, n*gga do I CARE? UR JOB IS TOOOOO DRIVE. After he and da rest of this incompetents will tell u dat “oh there is no money, things are hard, our leaders are corrupt, blah, blah, blah. But……………BREAKIN NEWS: “most Nigerians DON’T WANT TO WORK!!!. They rather go to church and ask God for money to POUR on them.
Even at work, some of my co-workers just sit there and don’t do jack, unless da boss is coming, like when I say they don’t do jack, I mean THEY DON’T DO JACK, they rather sit around and engage in Nigeria’s favorite pastime: GOSSIP.
Anyways, lemme stop before I raise my blood temperature thinking about dat driver.
So xmas ’08 should have been themed “when will I get married”
To be Cont…..
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